Yeah, I know, it's been a while. But hey, here I am again; and it's not like anybody reads this thing anyway (saying that just reminded me of a quote from 27 Dresses, lol). But anywho! This post is going to be about a great example of awkwardness vs unawkwardness: hugs/cuddling/holding hands. A lot of people have lots of differing levels of personal boundaries (especially at my school) and sometimes certain people aren't aware of that. So in this post I'm going to try and clarify how life works sometimes, and give some advice. I'll just say, though: as a rule of thumb, maybe you should ask before rubbing your face on someone. Annnyyyways.
Here we go: we have person A, who maybe is a strict Catholic, or they're afraid of germs, or they're really ticklish, and maybe they don't like people touching them. Now, all of those things are fine to be, especially ticklish because ticklish people can be very fun (*insert half-innuendo here*). However, we also have person B, who REALLY likes hugs and can't stop giving random people hugs. Who knows why. Now, person A might be uncomfortable with that, or they might be ok. Then we have person C, AKA me. I personally LOVE hugs. I give people hugs at least ten times a day. So naturally I have absolutely no problem with person B hugging me. That situation is pretty calm.
Next we have the holding hands thing, which is for some individuals a step upwards. Well, person A is obviously not going to like it very much if you try to hold their hand unless you're a great friend of theirs or their boyfriend/girlfriend or their brother or something. I, however, also happen to love holding hands (read: my hands are usually FREEZING cold and holding hands warms them up, as long as the other person doesn't mind that they're basically grabbing an icicle). So, again, if person B was trying to hold hands with either of us, I would probably be perfectly ok with it whereas person A might not be.
Lastly, we have cuddling. Now, I don't want to brag, but I make an awesome pillow. I mean come on, boobs are basically meant for lying on, and I have plenty enough to go around. I also really like being used as a pillow; it keeps me warm, and if there's anything we've learned from the holding hands thing, I'm not usually very warm by myself. Bad circulation, yadda yadda. So if we're sitting on a couch and person B wants to put their head on my shoulder, or lean on me, or whatever, I'm going to be pretty much fine with that too, so long as I'm not in a horrible mood for some reason. Unfortunately, again, person A might not be so kind. They may even get up and smack you, you push you to the other side of the room before sitting down again. How rude.
You may be reading this and wondering how it's a perfect example of awkwardness; well, let's take a scenario, shall we (yeha I know this whole thing has basically been scenarios, but give me a break I'm caffeine hyped). Alright, so person B is sitting on a couch with me, and as they get comfortable they lean on me. My answer: *shrug.* Other people may look at us funny and whisper, but as Hugh Laurie's new album would tell them, Let Them Talk (ohhh nooooo, that's not a hint to listen to/buy the album at alllllll)! Some people may think it's awkward or strange to have random friends of yours laying all over you. But a) they can think whatever they like, it won't change the truth of what's happening, and b) I enjoy getting to know people better through touch. I know, it's a strange thing to say, right? <--If you don't think that last statement is true, you're just like me and I love you! BUT, unfortunately, for some people snuggling randomly isn't a cool thing. Now, you can either make a big deal out of it, or not. If it bugs you, DO SOMETHING about it, but try not to hurt the person's feelings for gods' sakes. They DO have them, you know. So if you're one of those individuals who thinks that your friends touching you is weird/strange/awkward/unacceptable/suggestive, PLEASE take a chill pill or get some new friends...we'll still try to love you, but for those of us who are "awkward" like that it will be hard.
As for me, I'm not going to make it awkward. Why? Because it's only awkward if you make it awkward.
Love&Kisses<3
